Like you, many people have the potential to fall into the trap of these 5 mistakes. Avoid these mistakes at all costs to save yourself the embarrassment of a dirty talk attempt gone horribly wrong?

Mistake 1: Emulating the Dirty Talk in Porn Films

A good deal of women are turned off by porn, so try not to emulate what you’ve seen during some of those movies. Lots of them have cheesy lines and actors that aren’t up for academy awards for a very good reason.

Mistake 2: Making the Dirty Talk Unbelievable

Be aware that talking dirty can come across as very insincere. Telling your man, �your cock is so huge�, when in reality is only about 3 inches isn�t going to make him suddenly feel like a stud. Likewise, telling her that that you love her massive tits when she is more �grape� than �grapefruit� in size could backfire. Sure, indulge a little but don�t go completely overboard with your exaggeration. In fact, when your lover is overly conscious of his or her size, dirty talk can do amazing things to boost their confidence. Tell the guy with the tiny penis that his cock rubs your clit so perfectly or whisper to your wife that you love being able to put her whole breast in your mouth. Dirty talk gives you the avenue to banish their insecurities and make them eager for more hot sex with you.

Mistake 3: Putting False Expectations in Their Heads

When you�re using dirty talk, don�t tell your partner about things you honestly have NO intentions of doing (ie. Threesomes, group sex, farm animals, sex in public, midgets, bondage, etc.) You may find that it triggers some new fantasies or embeds some new images in his or her mind that he or she could continue to ask you to talk about and then want to act them out in real life.

Mistake 4: Using Dirty Talk as the Sizzle Rather Than The Spice

Talking dirty can also become redundant (just like missionary sex day after day after day). Make sure that you don�t use the same phrases, over and over, or trust me, it will have the exact opposite effect and your partner might end up thinking, �Ok�I�ve heard that so many times� please shut up already.� ?

Mistake 5: Giving Up When It�s Not Turning Them On

Sometimes talking dirty can be more comical than erotic, depending on what is said and how it is said. It�s okay to laugh! But don�t give up. There�s actually a lot to learn! It�s not just the words you say!

About the author:

Michael Webb is the author of �Dirty Talk Secrets: the ultimate guide to sexy talk�. His guide gives you over a hundreds dirty talk phrases you can use straight away to drive your partner wild. Plus you�ll learn how to feel comfortable talking dirty.

One of the biggest changes that most couples have to deal with when they bring children in their lives is their sex life. Where previously there were only the two of you and sex was something that happened where and whenever you fancied, now all of a sudden there are many other aspects, thoughts and feelings that have cropped up and suddenly everything has changed. Here are some hints and tips for spicing up your sex life once you have had children.

Dealing with hormone changes

One of the biggest changes after having a baby for the woman is the hormones that are racing through her body and the feelings that having someone dependant on you totally brings. The woman may feel very tearful and is affected by what is called �the baby blues�. Only time and patience will change this but eventually the body will come back to normal and settle down.

Making time with a newborn

Another big factor which puts off couples is the fact that they might be disturbed while in the middle of love making, this is very often a concern for the man more than the woman and can very easily lead to problems in a relationship.� With a newborn child, you may be concerned that the baby will begin to cry during your intimate time.� However, you must remember that this time is key to maintaining a strong and loving relationship that will enable you to provide the best care for your new little one.� Neither of you want your spouse to feel neglected any more than you want the baby to feel neglected.� Although it can be difficult when you are tired and cranky from late night feedings, when the little one is snoozing in the next room, snuggle up t.� Make time every day to cuddle and be close with your partner.� Not every day has to have the cuddling end in sex, but you will be surprised at the frequency at which it does.

With older children

With older children, the first thing you need to do, especially if you are worried about your children walking in on you or have had them walk in on you in the past is install a lock on your door.� If your child ever does walk in on you, don�t panic.� Send your child back to their room and then go and gently explain that what they saw is what mommies and daddies do when they love each other very much.

Dad�s feelings count too

Although the majority of men won�t admit it, they do feel left out as naturally the mothering instincts come out and the mother focuses all her energy on her child or children. So while the women wants to make an effort to include her partner and not make him feel left out, the partner also has to realize that these feelings are only natural for the mother and she isn�t pushing you aside knowingly.� The man has to find a way to be involved with the child.� This could be as simple as making and feeding the baby the bottle or going to fetch the child for a late-night feeding.� As a more romantic gesture, the father could get a cup of tea or glass of water for the mother while she is feeding the child.

Other ideas

Whenever you can let grandma or another relative take the children for the weekend and spend some quality time together without having to wonder if the child is safe and well. Even if it means you don�t go anywhere just be with each other and try to reconnect as you were before children arrived on the scene.

The first step to putting some zing back into your sex life is revitalizing it with some romance. When you first started out together you were probably a lot more romantic than you are now. In most relationships when people start to feel comfortable with each other and get to know each other, romance drops off a lot or even disappears altogether. There are many ways that a couple can be romantic; for example, surprise is a good thing to reintroduce back into the relationship. One night cook something you both enjoy that you had at a restaurant while you were dating, set out the table nicely with napkins and a tablecloth, wine glasses, candles, some nice flowers and low lighting. Get dressed up for the occasion and meet your spouse at the door with a big kiss and hello.

Romance can also include smaller things in your everyday life such as curling up bedside your partner to watch a movie, giving them a little kiss or a touch, perhaps a massage. There are many ways you can add romance back into the relationship and it doesn’t just mean flowers and chocolates, words and a touch can be a lot more romantic.

Doing something different can add a spark to your sex life. For example if you think of sex and just the bedroom then of course it will eventually get boring and the same all the time. Variety is the spice of life and you should bring some into your sex life. For example you could have a dress up play night, this could be where you introduce a scenario such as meeting each other in a bar and pretend you’re meeting for the first time. This could include dinner and a movie and of course plenty of hand holding.

If your sex life has gotten a little stale and only takes place on certain days as a matter of routine then change that routine and surprise your partner every now and again. Breaking what has become a habit is the main thing. Anything that is done out of habit becomes a chore and your sex life should be unpredictable and something which is on the spur of the moment. If you have children then think about asking if they can sleep at your parents every now and again to give the two of you some privacy and time to put some sparkle and surprise back into your life. Routine is the number one problem that causes the most stress and breakdown in marriages.