Over the years, I’ve seen couples make the same mistakes over and over again, when trying to improve their love lives, and I’d like to teach you how to overcome and avoid these problems.

Here are the 7 lovemaking mistakes. Are you making them?

Mistake #1: Feeling scared or embarrassed to talk about trying new things

Have you ever had an idea to spice up your lovemaking but were afraid of what your partner may think? Believe it or not, in 90% of cases, your partner would LOVE to try something new, too, but they’re just as uncomfortable or embarrassed about bringing it up as you are.

And you don’t need to introduce whips, chains or a third person. That’s nonsense! There are hundreds of ways to bring variety to your passionate play that aren’t crude or dangerous and that your partner is sure to be comfortable with.

Mistake #2: Trying to convince the partner to make love

If your lover is tired or not in the mood for sex, trying to convince or persuade them to have sex almost NEVER works. On the other hand, when a person is sexually aroused, their body releases the chemical ‘adrenaline’ into the bloodstream. This chemical is what gives you the energy to make love. So here’s how to arouse them the right way. Yes, even if they’re tired.

Ladies: Want to get him in the mood? Give him fellatio or manually stroke him between 9 �10 in the morning. This is when his testosterone levels are highest for the day. For better results, also wear something sexy or nothing at all. He’ll like that.

Lads: Deep passionate kisses are one of the biggest ‘turn-ons’ for women. Looking in her eyes and touching her face while kissing her can really increase arousal, too. And give some attention to her neck��it will drive her wild.
But don’t rush this! Spend quality time building up her arousal with your sensual kisses.

Mistake #3: Neglecting foreplay to enjoy intercourse sooner

People in a relationship (especially men) tend to neglect foreplay so they can begin to enjoy intercourse sooner, but did you know that foreplay is actually said to intensify orgasms?

That’s right. If you kiss, caress and touch longer, you can make your lovemaking even more satisfying.
So SLOW DOWN. Take your time. If you want to make it even better, tease your partner in a playful way. (This works like crazy.)

If you find something that they really enjoy, stop doing it, move back, and then do it again later. The more you pull back and push forward, the more they’ll want it. And the more intense their experience will be. There are many games you can play to heighten this anticipation, too.

Mistake #4: Using toys or porn to make your lovemaking better

When sex hits a rough patch, many couples (men especially) think that a video, some plastic or vibrating thingy will instantly takes things through the roof.

Wrong!� While toys can certainly have their place in your lovemaking repertoire, relying on them can be extremely dangerous. These outside sources of pleasure can quickly make lovemaking even less fulfilling.

Why? Because you don’t want your partner to end up looking forward to their plastic toy for pleasure more than they look forward to pleasure with you, do you? Couples need to first fully discover how to please all their spouses’ body parts before introducing other elements. Use them as a spice, not the main course.

Mistake #5: Trying to make the woman orgasm ONLY from intercourse

Men often feel “unmanly” if they can’t satisfy their woman from intercourse. But what they need to understand is that a large number of women can’t achieve orgasm through normal lovemaking.

Just knowing this takes the pressure off men completely. Now there’s no need to get upset when their women don�t reach orgasm. Instead, men should master the art of cunnilingus (going down on a woman).

Mistake #6: Trying to �finish� at the same time

Simultaneous orgasms are quite overrated. Instead of aiming for one orgasm that you share together, focus completely on the woman�s needs first. Hold off from the positions you find most enjoyable and instead make love in ways that are most pleasurable for your lady, until she is completely satisfied. That way you have a much greater chance of both climaxing.

Mistake #7: Sticking to a �set routine� too often

You know the drill. You take your clothes off, insert part A into part B, and, within a few minutes, the routine is over. Sound familiar?

No matter how fantastic lovemaking can be, there�s no denying it can get boring over the years.
And the reason is because lovemaking in its basic act is always the same. But
the danger is letting it get �too routine,� which can begin to affect your relationship.

The BEST WAY to protect your love life and precious connection with your partner is to have lots of new lovemaking ideas ready at your disposal.

That’s the secret.

In fact, when you have an abundance of NEW tips and techniques ready, you�ll enjoy more hot, steamy and passionate lovemaking, discover newfound enthusiasm to make love and even make love more often.

About the Author:

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the author of 500 Lovemaking Tips, a book full of ways to spice up your lovemaking, adding more passion, pleasure and intimacy to your experience.

To read more, visit: 500 Lovemaking Tips and Secrets

Try something new, we can all benefit from a change and changing the way things are in the bedroom is no exception. For example you could try introducing something such as dressing up in uniforms. Dressing up is a way to help you escape from the humdrum of life and do or be something different. For example your man could dress up as a policeman, pilot or someone from the armed forces. You could dress up for you man as a French maid, policewoman or nurse.

If you have got into a rut and sex has become boring then consider trying out new positions. There are many ways you can learn new positions, the Internet has a vast amount of information and of course there are many books on new sexual positions. While some of the sexual positions in the kama sutra require you to be almost double jointed, there are a variety out there that are suitable for anyone, of any age.

Introduce sex toys into your love life, these can be as kinky or tame as you desire and can quickly add excitement and bring back the spark to a deteriorating sex life. There are toys available for both the man and women and these include handcuffs, pleasure creams or light bondage gear such as whips.

Role playing can add that little bit extra to a fading sex life, there is something exciting about pretending to be someone you are not. For instance pretend that you are complete strangers meeting each other for the first time in a bar. Play this out by using stools at your kitchen counter top and entice the other into a night of naughty passion with a stranger. Or you could play at being secretary and boss, doctor and nurse. The possibilities are only limited by your imagination.

Lots of caressing and touching can add a spark and light the fires of passion. Plan on not having full sex but rather just foreplay, this can get so exciting that the two of you lose all control and end up having the best sex of your life.

Introducing food into your foreplay can be a great turn on, ideas you can use are bananas and whipped cream, cherries, chocolate or strawberry sauce, ice cream, again what you can do to turn each other on is only limited by your imagination and the contents of your fridge.

These are just some of the ways which you can easily and quickly spice up your sex life without it costing you a fortune, what you can achieve and how quickly you can achieve it is virtually only limited by your imagination.