Like you, many people have the potential to fall into the trap of these 5 mistakes. Avoid these mistakes at all costs to save yourself the embarrassment of a dirty talk attempt gone horribly wrong?

Mistake 1: Emulating the Dirty Talk in Porn Films

A good deal of women are turned off by porn, so try not to emulate what you’ve seen during some of those movies. Lots of them have cheesy lines and actors that aren’t up for academy awards for a very good reason.

Mistake 2: Making the Dirty Talk Unbelievable

Be aware that talking dirty can come across as very insincere. Telling your man, �your cock is so huge�, when in reality is only about 3 inches isn�t going to make him suddenly feel like a stud. Likewise, telling her that that you love her massive tits when she is more �grape� than �grapefruit� in size could backfire. Sure, indulge a little but don�t go completely overboard with your exaggeration. In fact, when your lover is overly conscious of his or her size, dirty talk can do amazing things to boost their confidence. Tell the guy with the tiny penis that his cock rubs your clit so perfectly or whisper to your wife that you love being able to put her whole breast in your mouth. Dirty talk gives you the avenue to banish their insecurities and make them eager for more hot sex with you.

Mistake 3: Putting False Expectations in Their Heads

When you�re using dirty talk, don�t tell your partner about things you honestly have NO intentions of doing (ie. Threesomes, group sex, farm animals, sex in public, midgets, bondage, etc.) You may find that it triggers some new fantasies or embeds some new images in his or her mind that he or she could continue to ask you to talk about and then want to act them out in real life.

Mistake 4: Using Dirty Talk as the Sizzle Rather Than The Spice

Talking dirty can also become redundant (just like missionary sex day after day after day). Make sure that you don�t use the same phrases, over and over, or trust me, it will have the exact opposite effect and your partner might end up thinking, �Ok�I�ve heard that so many times� please shut up already.� ?

Mistake 5: Giving Up When It�s Not Turning Them On

Sometimes talking dirty can be more comical than erotic, depending on what is said and how it is said. It�s okay to laugh! But don�t give up. There�s actually a lot to learn! It�s not just the words you say!

About the author:

Michael Webb is the author of �Dirty Talk Secrets: the ultimate guide to sexy talk�. His guide gives you over a hundreds dirty talk phrases you can use straight away to drive your partner wild. Plus you�ll learn how to feel comfortable talking dirty.

Of course, it’s no surprise that the “holy grail” of all the female orgasms is achieved with the G-spot. But finding it and knowing how to pleasure her G-spot is the hard part! Here’s an A-to-Z on everything you need to know!

1. How to find the G-spot

First of all, the G-spot is actually a zone, rather than an actual ‘spot.’ The G-spot is located about 2 inches inside the vagina on the topside. (On the underside of her stomach.) You’ll know when you’ve found it because it feels like a ribbed bump, like the roof of your mouth just behind your front teeth.

2. How should you stimulate it?

While most men would love to satisfy their ladies with intercourse, it’s not always the best idea. Why? Because it depends on factors like the position, her level of arousal, and penis and vaginal shape and size. In short: using fingers is the easiest way to reach orgasm with the most chance of success.

3. Important: Before stimulating the G-spot

In most cases, women need to have their clitoris stimulated before stimulating the G-spot. But once it’s fully stimulated, the clitoris is often too sensitive for direct contact. Ask your lady. Otherwise, the G-spot may feel dry and uncomfortable. After this point, you can move onto the G-spot.

4. The best positions to stimulate the G-spot

To really stimulate the G-spot, you’ll need to be in a position that gives you great easy access to work your magic. Here are two suggestions: 1) Your lady lies on her back while you lie next to her, using your stronger arm. 2) She sits in doggie-style position, while you sit and pleasure her from behind. Actually, if you want even more passion and excitement, try changing from one position to another over the course of your stimulation. Now let’s talk about how you should pleasure it.

5. How to stimulate the G-spot with this technique

The motion you want to use is the “come over here” gesture, using your fingers. Keep in mind that the G-spot is different from the clitoris, which means, in most cases, you’ll stroke it slightly harder than the clitoris. Start by massaging it lightly and work your way up to a point she finds incredibly satisfying.

6. How to tell if she’s enjoying it

First of all, remember that the best feeling will vary for every woman. Alternate between two very slight movements or spots to find what she likes best. You’ll know what she likes by her breathing or when she firmly grips you. Having said all that, there is a way to make this experience even MORE pleasurable.

7. The missing piece to a powerful orgasm

Did you know that prolonged foreplay is said to intensify orgasms? That’s right. However, men often focus so much on “performing” that they forget about spicing up their lovemaking with new and exciting things. Let’s face it; most of us are guilty of this.

You take your clothes off. Away you go, and, within a few seconds or minutes, the routine is over. But as the bedroom magic fades, it becomes harder and harder to make woman achieve orgasms. Why? Because women long for variety in their sexual experience.

The very best way to please women long-term is to have an entire “bag of ideas” ready to pull out whenever they’re needed. I cannot stress the need to keep your lovemaking fresh and exciting in every way. That’s the secret to fulfilled lovemaking.

About the Author:

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the author of 500 Lovemaking Tips, a book full of ways to spice up your lovemaking, adding more passion, pleasure and intimacy to your experience. To read more, visit: 500 Lovemaking Tips and Secrets

However, the best positions for men and women are different. Also, did you know that by moving even one inch in any direction while in these positions, you can dramatically change the feeling and intensity of a position? Take your time to find the best angles for the both of you, while using these positions.

The Best Position For Women To Climax

The reverse missionary is identical to the traditional missionary except that she is on top. This is probably the easiest position for a woman to climax because she can control the friction to her clitoris and/or G-spot.

Since you typically want the women to orgasm first, this would be one of your first positions and then move to a position where the guy has full control for his orgasm. You can vary your leg positions by both of you spreading your legs, or by alternating the one who has them spread and the one who has them together.

The Best Position For Men To Orgasm

Practically every animal species utilizes the rear-entry “doggy-style” position, so it is a natural one for humans to enjoy, as well. Although you won’t have face-to-face contact, there are many benefits. It is great for guys because it gives them full control.

This is one of the best positions for hitting her G-spot and allows you to fondle her breasts, stomach, clitoris, back, neck and other sensual spots. Even she can touch her clitoris in this position. She kneels before you (some women enjoy it more if their head is down on a pillow) and you enter her from behind. The main benefit for the guy is a view of her beautiful bottom and being able to see the action, while getting incredibly deep penetration (above-average guys need to be careful as deep thrusts might hit her cervix, which can be quite painful).

The Mistake Couples Make Using Lovemaking Positions

Of course, books show dozens, if not hundreds, of sexual positions, but the reality is that there are maybe only eight basic positions, with slight variations for each. So what happens when you’ve tried all eight positions to death? Let’s face it: in the end, lovemaking is generally always the same.

That’s why you should explore ALL aspects of sexuality about each other. I don’t mean anything freaky here. I just mean cultivate an adventurous spirit. Turn foreplay into a game. Add a prop or two. Try a new place. How about starting off with a plate of fruits? There are literally HUNDREDS of ways you can make your lovemaking more exciting, passionate and fulfilling long-term, rather than just trying new positions.

About the Author:

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the author of 500 Lovemaking Tips, a book full of ways to spice up your lovemaking, adding more passion, pleasure and intimacy to your experience. To read more, visit: 500 Lovemaking Tips and Secrets

Over the years, I’ve seen couples make the same mistakes over and over again, when trying to improve their love lives, and I’d like to teach you how to overcome and avoid these problems.

Here are the 7 lovemaking mistakes. Are you making them?

Mistake #1: Feeling scared or embarrassed to talk about trying new things

Have you ever had an idea to spice up your lovemaking but were afraid of what your partner may think? Believe it or not, in 90% of cases, your partner would LOVE to try something new, too, but they’re just as uncomfortable or embarrassed about bringing it up as you are.

And you don’t need to introduce whips, chains or a third person. That’s nonsense! There are hundreds of ways to bring variety to your passionate play that aren’t crude or dangerous and that your partner is sure to be comfortable with.

Mistake #2: Trying to convince the partner to make love

If your lover is tired or not in the mood for sex, trying to convince or persuade them to have sex almost NEVER works. On the other hand, when a person is sexually aroused, their body releases the chemical ‘adrenaline’ into the bloodstream. This chemical is what gives you the energy to make love. So here’s how to arouse them the right way. Yes, even if they’re tired.

Ladies: Want to get him in the mood? Give him fellatio or manually stroke him between 9 �10 in the morning. This is when his testosterone levels are highest for the day. For better results, also wear something sexy or nothing at all. He’ll like that.

Lads: Deep passionate kisses are one of the biggest ‘turn-ons’ for women. Looking in her eyes and touching her face while kissing her can really increase arousal, too. And give some attention to her neck��it will drive her wild.
But don’t rush this! Spend quality time building up her arousal with your sensual kisses.

Mistake #3: Neglecting foreplay to enjoy intercourse sooner

People in a relationship (especially men) tend to neglect foreplay so they can begin to enjoy intercourse sooner, but did you know that foreplay is actually said to intensify orgasms?

That’s right. If you kiss, caress and touch longer, you can make your lovemaking even more satisfying.
So SLOW DOWN. Take your time. If you want to make it even better, tease your partner in a playful way. (This works like crazy.)

If you find something that they really enjoy, stop doing it, move back, and then do it again later. The more you pull back and push forward, the more they’ll want it. And the more intense their experience will be. There are many games you can play to heighten this anticipation, too.

Mistake #4: Using toys or porn to make your lovemaking better

When sex hits a rough patch, many couples (men especially) think that a video, some plastic or vibrating thingy will instantly takes things through the roof.

Wrong!� While toys can certainly have their place in your lovemaking repertoire, relying on them can be extremely dangerous. These outside sources of pleasure can quickly make lovemaking even less fulfilling.

Why? Because you don’t want your partner to end up looking forward to their plastic toy for pleasure more than they look forward to pleasure with you, do you? Couples need to first fully discover how to please all their spouses’ body parts before introducing other elements. Use them as a spice, not the main course.

Mistake #5: Trying to make the woman orgasm ONLY from intercourse

Men often feel “unmanly” if they can’t satisfy their woman from intercourse. But what they need to understand is that a large number of women can’t achieve orgasm through normal lovemaking.

Just knowing this takes the pressure off men completely. Now there’s no need to get upset when their women don�t reach orgasm. Instead, men should master the art of cunnilingus (going down on a woman).

Mistake #6: Trying to �finish� at the same time

Simultaneous orgasms are quite overrated. Instead of aiming for one orgasm that you share together, focus completely on the woman�s needs first. Hold off from the positions you find most enjoyable and instead make love in ways that are most pleasurable for your lady, until she is completely satisfied. That way you have a much greater chance of both climaxing.

Mistake #7: Sticking to a �set routine� too often

You know the drill. You take your clothes off, insert part A into part B, and, within a few minutes, the routine is over. Sound familiar?

No matter how fantastic lovemaking can be, there�s no denying it can get boring over the years.
And the reason is because lovemaking in its basic act is always the same. But
the danger is letting it get �too routine,� which can begin to affect your relationship.

The BEST WAY to protect your love life and precious connection with your partner is to have lots of new lovemaking ideas ready at your disposal.

That’s the secret.

In fact, when you have an abundance of NEW tips and techniques ready, you�ll enjoy more hot, steamy and passionate lovemaking, discover newfound enthusiasm to make love and even make love more often.

About the Author:

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the author of 500 Lovemaking Tips, a book full of ways to spice up your lovemaking, adding more passion, pleasure and intimacy to your experience.

To read more, visit: 500 Lovemaking Tips and Secrets

One of the biggest changes that most couples have to deal with when they bring children in their lives is their sex life. Where previously there were only the two of you and sex was something that happened where and whenever you fancied, now all of a sudden there are many other aspects, thoughts and feelings that have cropped up and suddenly everything has changed. Here are some hints and tips for spicing up your sex life once you have had children.

Dealing with hormone changes

One of the biggest changes after having a baby for the woman is the hormones that are racing through her body and the feelings that having someone dependant on you totally brings. The woman may feel very tearful and is affected by what is called �the baby blues�. Only time and patience will change this but eventually the body will come back to normal and settle down.

Making time with a newborn

Another big factor which puts off couples is the fact that they might be disturbed while in the middle of love making, this is very often a concern for the man more than the woman and can very easily lead to problems in a relationship.� With a newborn child, you may be concerned that the baby will begin to cry during your intimate time.� However, you must remember that this time is key to maintaining a strong and loving relationship that will enable you to provide the best care for your new little one.� Neither of you want your spouse to feel neglected any more than you want the baby to feel neglected.� Although it can be difficult when you are tired and cranky from late night feedings, when the little one is snoozing in the next room, snuggle up t.� Make time every day to cuddle and be close with your partner.� Not every day has to have the cuddling end in sex, but you will be surprised at the frequency at which it does.

With older children

With older children, the first thing you need to do, especially if you are worried about your children walking in on you or have had them walk in on you in the past is install a lock on your door.� If your child ever does walk in on you, don�t panic.� Send your child back to their room and then go and gently explain that what they saw is what mommies and daddies do when they love each other very much.

Dad�s feelings count too

Although the majority of men won�t admit it, they do feel left out as naturally the mothering instincts come out and the mother focuses all her energy on her child or children. So while the women wants to make an effort to include her partner and not make him feel left out, the partner also has to realize that these feelings are only natural for the mother and she isn�t pushing you aside knowingly.� The man has to find a way to be involved with the child.� This could be as simple as making and feeding the baby the bottle or going to fetch the child for a late-night feeding.� As a more romantic gesture, the father could get a cup of tea or glass of water for the mother while she is feeding the child.

Other ideas

Whenever you can let grandma or another relative take the children for the weekend and spend some quality time together without having to wonder if the child is safe and well. Even if it means you don�t go anywhere just be with each other and try to reconnect as you were before children arrived on the scene.

Try something new, we can all benefit from a change and changing the way things are in the bedroom is no exception. For example you could try introducing something such as dressing up in uniforms. Dressing up is a way to help you escape from the humdrum of life and do or be something different. For example your man could dress up as a policeman, pilot or someone from the armed forces. You could dress up for you man as a French maid, policewoman or nurse.

If you have got into a rut and sex has become boring then consider trying out new positions. There are many ways you can learn new positions, the Internet has a vast amount of information and of course there are many books on new sexual positions. While some of the sexual positions in the kama sutra require you to be almost double jointed, there are a variety out there that are suitable for anyone, of any age.

Introduce sex toys into your love life, these can be as kinky or tame as you desire and can quickly add excitement and bring back the spark to a deteriorating sex life. There are toys available for both the man and women and these include handcuffs, pleasure creams or light bondage gear such as whips.

Role playing can add that little bit extra to a fading sex life, there is something exciting about pretending to be someone you are not. For instance pretend that you are complete strangers meeting each other for the first time in a bar. Play this out by using stools at your kitchen counter top and entice the other into a night of naughty passion with a stranger. Or you could play at being secretary and boss, doctor and nurse. The possibilities are only limited by your imagination.

Lots of caressing and touching can add a spark and light the fires of passion. Plan on not having full sex but rather just foreplay, this can get so exciting that the two of you lose all control and end up having the best sex of your life.

Introducing food into your foreplay can be a great turn on, ideas you can use are bananas and whipped cream, cherries, chocolate or strawberry sauce, ice cream, again what you can do to turn each other on is only limited by your imagination and the contents of your fridge.

These are just some of the ways which you can easily and quickly spice up your sex life without it costing you a fortune, what you can achieve and how quickly you can achieve it is virtually only limited by your imagination.

The first step to putting some zing back into your sex life is revitalizing it with some romance. When you first started out together you were probably a lot more romantic than you are now. In most relationships when people start to feel comfortable with each other and get to know each other, romance drops off a lot or even disappears altogether. There are many ways that a couple can be romantic; for example, surprise is a good thing to reintroduce back into the relationship. One night cook something you both enjoy that you had at a restaurant while you were dating, set out the table nicely with napkins and a tablecloth, wine glasses, candles, some nice flowers and low lighting. Get dressed up for the occasion and meet your spouse at the door with a big kiss and hello.

Romance can also include smaller things in your everyday life such as curling up bedside your partner to watch a movie, giving them a little kiss or a touch, perhaps a massage. There are many ways you can add romance back into the relationship and it doesn’t just mean flowers and chocolates, words and a touch can be a lot more romantic.

Doing something different can add a spark to your sex life. For example if you think of sex and just the bedroom then of course it will eventually get boring and the same all the time. Variety is the spice of life and you should bring some into your sex life. For example you could have a dress up play night, this could be where you introduce a scenario such as meeting each other in a bar and pretend you’re meeting for the first time. This could include dinner and a movie and of course plenty of hand holding.

If your sex life has gotten a little stale and only takes place on certain days as a matter of routine then change that routine and surprise your partner every now and again. Breaking what has become a habit is the main thing. Anything that is done out of habit becomes a chore and your sex life should be unpredictable and something which is on the spur of the moment. If you have children then think about asking if they can sleep at your parents every now and again to give the two of you some privacy and time to put some sparkle and surprise back into your life. Routine is the number one problem that causes the most stress and breakdown in marriages.

Sexual Skills for the Christian Husband

From “Sexual Skills For The Christian Husband” by Robert Irwin

Myth 1: Sex Isn’t As Important In A Christian Marriage

Did you realize that the divorce rate among Christian married couples is exactly the same as that of non-Christian couples?

The American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers presented a study of the major reasons for the failure of marriages. They ranked “failed expectations or unmet needs” as the most important cause of divorce.

And, in my experience those “failed expectations and unmet needs are usually in the bedroom.

In my research for this book, I consulted pastors and Christian counselors and read EVERY Scripture that dealt with sex.

And you know what?

Sex in a Christian marriage is MORE important than in a non-Christian marriage!

In this book, you’ll discover why this is…and how to bring back the sex to your Christian marriage.

Myth 2: Good Christians Don’t Have Exciting Sex

I’ll address this idea first with one of my favorite C. S. Lewis quotes…

“Christianity is almost the only one of the great religions which thoroughly approves of the body – which believes that matter is good, that God Himself once took on a human body, that some kind of body is going to be given to us even in Heaven and is going to be an essential part of our happiness, our beauty, and our energy…Christianity has glorified marriage more than any other religion: and nearly all the greatest love poetry in the world has been produced by Christians. If anyone says that sex, in itself, is bad, Christianity contradicts him at once…”

Christians have a pretty bad reputation when it comes to sex and sexuality.

Within popular culture, Christians are portrayed as either sexually repressed or sexually deviant hypocrites.

This is predictable- Jesus told us that the world would not understand us (actually, he said it would hate us) because of Him.

So, this wouldn’t be a problem, if we did not sometimes (unconsciously or consciously) accept these false ideas, as well.

It is understandable. Many of the “authorities” to which we seek guidance have, at times, given us incorrect information regarding Christian sexuality and its relationship to pleasing God (holiness).

These false ideas can have particularly strong negative effects on Christian women.

Many times, we have heard Christians express their confusion with this topic in the following ways:

“How can I be pleasing to God and be a sensual, sexual, person?”

“I can not imagine that being that passionate is very Christian-like…”

“My spouse would never respect me if I did that…”

Within Christianity, as explained by C. S. Lewis above, there is no struggle between holiness and sexuality (within marriage).

The idea that we are to avoid physical pleasure to achieve spiritual holiness is not a Christian concept.

It was proposed by the philosopher Plato and it is where we get the term “platonic.” Followers of this “platonic” philosophy look at the physical world, including sexuality, as lesser “shadows” of the better, “spiritual” things. It pitted the physical and spiritual against each other. To pursue one was, by definition, to lose the other.

Unfortunately, this idea has, at times, found its way into the church, despite Scripture’s clear message otherwise.

Within this book, you will learn what God really wants for you, sexually.

Myth 3: Women Are Less Sexually Responsive Than Men

This is one of the most common (and damaging) ‘Christian sex myths.’

This myth has caused countless Christian couples to experience lifetimes of sexual disappointment.

But, once you learn THE TRUTH about female sexual response and arousal, you will not have to be one of these couples!

In this book, you will learn why, scientifically, women have 10X the sexual potential of most men.

More importantly, you will learn EXACTLY how to unleash this potential.

“Sexual Skills For The Christian Husband”

by Robert Irwin

Sexual Skills for the Christian Husband