1. Work Out A Budget
IF money seems to be the constant source of your argument, consider working out a budget that everyone can live with. This way, both parties are clear on what is expected of themselves and what to expect of the other. Many couples have a hard time working out a budget that both parties can live with at first, so be open to changing a few things around depending on what is and is not working out for you and your spouse. After you have your finances squared away you will be surprised at the stress that is lifted off of you shoulders, and the stress that is lifted off of the shoulders of your spouse as well. Bills and money are real stressors; they do not have to go it alone and they should know that.

2. Consider Marriage Counseling
Communication barriers are one of the most trying issues that any married couple can face. Marriage counselors are trained to understand the nature of even the most seemingly crackpot relationships and as long as you are honest with your therapist they might be able to help you and your spouse pinpoint some of the issues that are putting the most stress on your spouse. Perhaps they feel unappreciated, or intimidated. Perhaps they are bored or would like something different but do not know how to say it. Marriage counselors can help you and your spouse stay married and work through the difficulties; after all, if trivial problems were going to break you up, you would not have gotten married now, would you?

3. Keep Your Business Your Business
Often times, the most disruptive factor in a marriage can be outside influences. This has to do with the impact that children, in-laws, friends and other family members can have on your relationship. If the influence of other people has been known to cause problems in your relationship, seek the advice of one person to keep the buzz down or seek the services of a therapist or marriage counselor. If you and your spouse are in agreement as to how to handle the influence of outside people, then you will be that much stronger as a couple and more able to handle anything that comes your way.

Helping yourself and your spouse work toward a better marriage is not always the easiest thing to do, but with the proper dedication and the proper help you and your significant other can overcome anything.

The first step to putting some zing back into your sex life is revitalizing it with some romance. When you first started out together you were probably a lot more romantic than you are now. In most relationships when people start to feel comfortable with each other and get to know each other, romance drops off a lot or even disappears altogether. There are many ways that a couple can be romantic; for example, surprise is a good thing to reintroduce back into the relationship. One night cook something you both enjoy that you had at a restaurant while you were dating, set out the table nicely with napkins and a tablecloth, wine glasses, candles, some nice flowers and low lighting. Get dressed up for the occasion and meet your spouse at the door with a big kiss and hello.

Romance can also include smaller things in your everyday life such as curling up bedside your partner to watch a movie, giving them a little kiss or a touch, perhaps a massage. There are many ways you can add romance back into the relationship and it doesn’t just mean flowers and chocolates, words and a touch can be a lot more romantic.

Doing something different can add a spark to your sex life. For example if you think of sex and just the bedroom then of course it will eventually get boring and the same all the time. Variety is the spice of life and you should bring some into your sex life. For example you could have a dress up play night, this could be where you introduce a scenario such as meeting each other in a bar and pretend you’re meeting for the first time. This could include dinner and a movie and of course plenty of hand holding.

If your sex life has gotten a little stale and only takes place on certain days as a matter of routine then change that routine and surprise your partner every now and again. Breaking what has become a habit is the main thing. Anything that is done out of habit becomes a chore and your sex life should be unpredictable and something which is on the spur of the moment. If you have children then think about asking if they can sleep at your parents every now and again to give the two of you some privacy and time to put some sparkle and surprise back into your life. Routine is the number one problem that causes the most stress and breakdown in marriages.