The 3 Most Damaging Myths About ‘Christian Sex’
Sexual Skills for the Christian Husband
From “Sexual Skills For The Christian Husband” by Robert Irwin
Myth 1: Sex Isn’t As Important In A Christian Marriage
Did you realize that the divorce rate among Christian married couples is exactly the same as that of non-Christian couples?
The American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers presented a study of the major reasons for the failure of marriages. They ranked “failed expectations or unmet needs” as the most important cause of divorce.
And, in my experience those “failed expectations and unmet needs are usually in the bedroom.
In my research for this book, I consulted pastors and Christian counselors and read EVERY Scripture that dealt with sex.
And you know what?
Sex in a Christian marriage is MORE important than in a non-Christian marriage!
In this book, you’ll discover why this is…and how to bring back the sex to your Christian marriage.
Myth 2: Good Christians Don’t Have Exciting Sex
I’ll address this idea first with one of my favorite C. S. Lewis quotes…
“Christianity is almost the only one of the great religions which thoroughly approves of the body – which believes that matter is good, that God Himself once took on a human body, that some kind of body is going to be given to us even in Heaven and is going to be an essential part of our happiness, our beauty, and our energy…Christianity has glorified marriage more than any other religion: and nearly all the greatest love poetry in the world has been produced by Christians. If anyone says that sex, in itself, is bad, Christianity contradicts him at once…”
Christians have a pretty bad reputation when it comes to sex and sexuality.
Within popular culture, Christians are portrayed as either sexually repressed or sexually deviant hypocrites.
This is predictable- Jesus told us that the world would not understand us (actually, he said it would hate us) because of Him.
So, this wouldn’t be a problem, if we did not sometimes (unconsciously or consciously) accept these false ideas, as well.
It is understandable. Many of the “authorities” to which we seek guidance have, at times, given us incorrect information regarding Christian sexuality and its relationship to pleasing God (holiness).
These false ideas can have particularly strong negative effects on Christian women.
Many times, we have heard Christians express their confusion with this topic in the following ways:
“How can I be pleasing to God and be a sensual, sexual, person?”
“I can not imagine that being that passionate is very Christian-like…”
“My spouse would never respect me if I did that…”
Within Christianity, as explained by C. S. Lewis above, there is no struggle between holiness and sexuality (within marriage).
The idea that we are to avoid physical pleasure to achieve spiritual holiness is not a Christian concept.
It was proposed by the philosopher Plato and it is where we get the term “platonic.” Followers of this “platonic” philosophy look at the physical world, including sexuality, as lesser “shadows” of the better, “spiritual” things. It pitted the physical and spiritual against each other. To pursue one was, by definition, to lose the other.
Unfortunately, this idea has, at times, found its way into the church, despite Scripture’s clear message otherwise.
Within this book, you will learn what God really wants for you, sexually.
Myth 3: Women Are Less Sexually Responsive Than Men
This is one of the most common (and damaging) ‘Christian sex myths.’
This myth has caused countless Christian couples to experience lifetimes of sexual disappointment.
But, once you learn THE TRUTH about female sexual response and arousal, you will not have to be one of these couples!
In this book, you will learn why, scientifically, women have 10X the sexual potential of most men.
More importantly, you will learn EXACTLY how to unleash this potential.
“Sexual Skills For The Christian Husband”
by Robert Irwin
Sexual Skills for the Christian Husband
